Just as the tag ONE SIZE FITS ALL strikes fear into the hearts of many women, so too should the legion of ONE SIZE FITS ALL weight loss/destress/find happiness/unlock your mojo programs out there in the marketplace.

Let’s face it.  ONE SIZE FITS ALL really is not true to label is it?  It really means, way too big, or way too small, or just not the right shape at all to fit you personally.  It really means ‘we could not be bothered making a form-fitting piece just for you, so we made something that fits some of the people, some of the time, and we kinda hope you won’t notice!’

Just as a perfect tailor-made pair of jeans fits snugly and enhances your figure, so too is there an alternative way to treat, to tailor-make your health, your happiness, and indeed how you show up on this gorgeous planet.  Here are my top 3 tips for tailor-made health:

1)    Take your cue from you

Trying to fit into the norm when the goalposts of the norm shift every day, depending on what diet or exercise program is being shouted out from the tabloids is fraught with failure.

You gorgeous are an individual and your nutrition is no different!  Learning to listen to your own body’s cues and response to foods, to movement, and indeed to your entire life gives much more powerful information with which to steer your health.Learning to listen to your own body’s cues and response to foods, to movement, and indeed to your entire life gives much more powerful information with which to steer your health

Different backgrounds, climate, taste and texture preferences, constitution and even gender will dictate how a food affects you.  Some people feel fabulous with a mainly raw, lots of juicing kind of gig, others feel energetic and full of beans with lots of good quality organic plant and animal protein on board.

Break free from a prescriptive rules based approach, and take your cues from you.  Simple, yet so effective.

2)    Do what moves you

Focus on what feels good and give up the exercise-is-a-chore mindset.  Stop going to the gym and grinding out on the treadmill if swiftly walking across sand in the great outdoors is what really gets your soul wagging its tail.

Instead of negatively spinning exercise by just counting calories burnt, turn your attention to moving the energy around your body.  The sheer joy of stretching and flexing and challenging yourself, then the softer, more inwards and gentle movements of dance or yoga is for you.  Try them out and find out ways of moving your body and honouring yourself that you actually enjoy.

Exercise is not simply a way to maintain your weight or make yourself pay for eating ‘the wrong thing’.  Tap in to understand that movement unblocks energy, invigorates your body and its processes and gives you a natural feel good effect.  It’s when you stop making it a chore it becomes delicious and is freeing.

3)    Trip up that inner b*tch

Just as movement and nutrition must be personalised and driven by joy and feeling good, so too must our internal landscapes.  Many a woman has worked on her physical health yet neglected to shove a sock in the mouth of that inner b*tch living between her two ears.  The difference between conventional health and a holistic way of caring for ourselves is the understanding that every thought, every feeling, every decision and interaction accumulates to our overall health.  So an integral part of staying healthy is watching that inner dialogue and this is also is a very personal aspect of ourselves.

That inner b*tch is born usually during childhood or our formative years when we learn ridiculous things like “don’t rock the boat, your needs are not important” or “Sarah’s always such a good girl” or “Georgia is so bossy, she’ll never make any friends”.  (Of course, childhood breeds many happy memories as well!)

The trick is no one else will ever live inside your head, so make friends with yourself!   Insert the friend filter in your mind, run every little voice through the filter and be vigilant to any self-defeating BS going on.  Your health and happiness will thank you for it.

Remember you are an individual.  Your nutrition, your movement, your mindset, they are still just a small piece of the puzzle – but please beware. ONE SIZE FITS ALL deals will never give you the tailor-made solution you seek to up the ante on your all round health and happiness.

Kylie Patchett

Kylie Patchett is the author of The Tall Poppy Project:: Stand Tall + Stake a Claim On Your Delicious Life.  An inspirational speaker, and former forensic scientist turned holistic health coach, she is the founder of The Tall Poppy Project: an online holistic health oasis for gorgeous gals.  She delivers life-transforming workshops and coaching programs designed to bring awareness to true integrated holistic health and the impact that learning radical self-respect can have on your time on this gorgeous planet.


We are all so caught up in the whirl gig of the silly season right now, it is easy to forget there is a new year of possibilities peeping over the horizon.  As we enter the home stretch of 2012, it’s the perfect time to purge and make space for the life you crave in 2013.

1. Trade in your to-do list

How many things do you do daily that are not aligned with what you want to be, how you want to feel, when you show up in the world?  Simplifying your life by ditching some stuff on your list is one of the most clearing and cleansing gifts you can give yourself.  What can you let go, outsource, simplify or swap to make more room in life for doing what your heart really desires?

2. Review your relationships

How do you crave feeling in your relationships with family, friends, colleagues and lovers?  Who are the people in your life who make you feel inspired uplifted, supported, respected, and treat you as an equal?  On the other hand, are there others who leave you feeling drained, defensive or frustrated?  For any relationships, that are not serving up what you crave, you need to choose one of two options:  accept your part (remember it takes two to tango), and commit to the clear communication and generosity of spirit required to evolve a relationship; or understand the relationship has come to a natural conclusion, forgive and let it go gracefully.

3. Ramp up your radical self respect

Taking care of yourself is so much more than what you eat and how you exercise.  It’s time to understand the power of what goes on between your ears.  Are you your own best friend or worst enemy, or do you split your time between thinking I am fabulous and I am crap?  It’s time to kick the limiting beliefs and messages you keep repeating to yourself.  Awareness is the first step in creating new possibilities, so pay attention to the thoughts going on each day and add the crappy habits to your let-go list!

4. The power of pause

It is super easy to become completely disconnected from what you really want, if you are leading the over-scheduled under-rested life so many of us fall into.  Making space for pause, for time out, with no external noise, no distractions, interactions or technology to intrude is the absolute best way to learn to listen to your own answers, rather than referring to external people or stimuli for guidance.  Taking pause is paramount to connection to self.  Start to schedule pause time regularly: even if it’s only five or ten minutes per day of solitary, deep breathing over a cuppa.

5. Honour your need for nourishment

This final tip is perhaps the only tip you really need.  Every issue you encounter in life is a reflection of how you see yourself and how much love, abundance, happiness and grace you will allow yourself to feel.  The only question you need to answer if you feel lost, hopeless, frustrated, overwhelmed or stuck is: where in my life am I blocking my need for being nourished?  Our lack of nourishment often shows up in excess weight, disconnected or passive-aggressive relationship patterns or an inability to find a soul-satisfying career.  Learning to listen to your deepest inner wisdom is paramount to leading a life that nourishes.

So honey, its time to make space for the life you crave .. Here’s to your Delicious Life in 2013 and beyond.

Kylie x

Kylie Patchett

Kylie Patchett is the author of The Tall Poppy Project:: Stand Tall + Stake a Claim On Your Delicious Life.  An inspirational speaker, and former forensic scientist turned holistic health coach, she is the founder of The Tall Poppy Project: an online holistic health oasis for gorgeous gals.  She delivers life-transforming workshops and coaching programs designed to bring awareness to true integrated holistic health and the impact that learning radical self-respect can have on your time on this gorgeous planet.   

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These days a lot of time and effort goes into thinking things through, driving towards a goal, pushing to get stuff done.  We live in a very masculine world, with the feminine traits of receiving, allowing, feeling rather than thinking, and using intuition to steer through life are less acceptable and less normal in most circles.

The issue with this style of living is that the doing striving achieving without the complimentary arts of downtime and tapping into your inner wisdom leaves us unbalanced, unmotivated and often feeling a bit darn stuck.  So how do you begin to tap into a gentler way of treating yourself?

For starters, pay attention to these warnings signs.

3 warning signs you should not ignore

PAIN IN THE NECK

Most of seem to think that some sort of physical pain is normal.  We crick our necks from ‘sleeping funny’ or suffer from lower back pain after sitting at a desk all day and it really is nothing out of the ordinary.  The real truth is that physical pain is a massive neon sign that somewhere somehow imbalance has developed in your life.  And the next step is understanding that all physical pain has an emotional and spiritual component. Life must be designed to sustain you, to make space for feelings of ease + flow + grace to be constant companions in life.  And yet so many of us are stuck in the mindsets that life is not meant to be easy

So instead of reaching for the Panadol or having a few drinks to physically relax consider this:  the state of your physical, emotional and spiritual health is the accumulations of every single thing you experience, think and feel in your life.  From the food you eat, to your internal mindset, how much downtime you allow yourself, and interactions in relationships ultimately all effect your health.

Many ancient traditions including Oriental Medicine gift us the fundamental precept that the emotional and spiritual also effect the physical.  So ignoring or masking physical pain with medication allows the imbalance to deepen, often allowing the underlying cause to grow in force and ferocity.  This often leads to major disease including cancer and heart disease.  For some, this gives us enough of a wakeup call to pay attention to our health, rather than soldiering on with a Codral.

What would be possible if we paid attention to ourselves, our physical manifestation of how balanced we are, and honoured ourselves with attention and care we deserved to unravel the cause of the pain on a physical and emotional level?

 

WANTING TO SCREAM OR CRY ALL THE TIME

Similarly to physical pain, emotional and spiritual symptoms of imbalance and the need for nurture are manifested in the form of depression, anxiety, feelings of overwhelm or stuckness or those days when you just simply feel like you cannot cope anymore with the demands of life.

Although there is of course a place for treatment of acute depression and anxiety with medication, there are also large bodies of evidence to suggest that the same impact can be made by altering our lifestyle and stress factors.  When you think about the fact that at least 80% of all major disease is preventable with lifestyle and stress management solutions, it becomes evident that we have lost the art of self-care.

Depression, anxiety and other strong emotional responses do not occur simply as a result of there being ‘something wrong’ with you or that some people cope better than others.  In fact it is a massive neon sign saying WRONG WAY GO BACK.  Something in your life, and often a whole series of things, are bringing to bear too much pressure and no space for relief.  Again this has a massive impact in day to day health and of course the over use of medical fixes to mask this emotional pain means that again imbalance is pushed to breaking point.

CONSTANTLY CRAVING ESCAPE

Do you have a recurring daydream that you will win lotto, or suddenly be gifted with the ability to just walk away from your life.  I often find female clients – usually working Mums who are struggling to juggle their own health + desires and the demands of business + family – saying things like ‘I just wish I could run away’.

Now don’t get me wrong we all have days like this, but when you are craving a release from daily life to the point where this becomes a regular thought or wish, it’s time to take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what you truly need.

Life must be designed to sustain you, to make space for feelings of ease + flow + grace to be constant companions in life.  And yet so many of us are stuck in the mindsets that life is not meant to be easy, I have to work hard in a job I hate because that’s the only way to make money, I am stuck in this relationship because it’s too hard to leave.

These mindsets poison your energy fields.  And your energy creates your reality.

These mindsets block your potential.  By investing in a belief that stops you aligning yourself with life being easy and joyful, you are in effect putting out a massive NO THANKS sign on the front yard of your soul.  No thanks Universe, I don’t want any blessings.  No thanks Universe, I don’t deserve this.  No thanks Universe, I am not good enough.

So next time you find yourself craving escape, consider what you feel is really possible for you.  If you are limited by your beliefs, it’s time to have a clear out!

Kylie Patchett

Kylie Patchett is the author of The Tall Poppy Project:: Stand Tall + Stake a Claim On Your Delicious Life.  An inspirational speaker,  and former medical scientist turned holistic health coach, she is the founder of The Tall Poppy Project: an online holistic health oasis for gorgeous gals.

She delivers life-transforming online courses and coaching programs designed to bring awareness to true integrated holistic health and the impact that learning radical self-respect can have on your time on this gorgeous planet.  You can find Kylie on Facebook and Twitter @kylie_patchett  or at www.kyliepatchett.com

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